Imagine losing someone you love, but feeling like you have to keep that pain all to yourself. It’s often that way with miscarriage. But this October, pregnancy and infant loss month, women all over the country have been sharing their stories, hoping others don’t have to go through the pain alone.
When Wendy Johnson realized she was four weeks pregnant, she began a journal. Wendy and her husband were shocked and excited. They have a two-year-old daughter named Allison. Wendy imagined it would be another little girl; a baby sister for Allison. They were cautious about sharing the news at first. But Wendy developed Hyperemesis gravidarum, which causes severe nausea and vomiting during pregnancy. With Wendy mostly bed-bound, they soon needed help. They decided to tell a few friends and family members. But it wasn’t long after that they got devastating news. Wendy shares as she reads from her journal about that appointment. “This is the hard one. Week nine. You don’t have a heartbeat. Our doctor came in and gave us the worst news. He was very straightforward and so compassionate. That night I took medicine, but you didn’t leave. On the 18th our doctor performed a D&C with suction. It was a short procedure and mommy did well.”
After losing the pregnancy, Wendy continued to journal. She decided to share those entries with 17 News and on social media, hoping to help help other women.
Her last entry reads: “We had made so many choices about our future with you already. Now we are going to plan a vacation or day trip to hlp us look forward to something. I’m going to contiue to talk about what happened to me. So as to make miscarriage less of a hushed word. There are so many stories out there that shouldn’t be kept a secret. Grief is already hard. You don’t have to do it alone.”
According to the March of Dimes, for women who know they are pregnant, about 10-15% of pregnancies end in a miscarriage.