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Updated: 7/22/2008 6:36 am
        A father in southwest Bakersfield is literally holding his daughter accountable for her bad behavior. But, does the punishment fit the crime?
        "If you're a liar and a thief and you disrespect your parents, let's be honest about it and tell everybody," the thirteen yer old's father said. And that's exactly what this Bakersfield father is making his 13-year old daughter do.
        The sign reads "Attention. I am a habitual liar and I steal and I disrespect my parents."
        We are not identifying the teen in order to protect her identity and to save her further embarrassment, but her father says she steals money, took a neighbor's video game console and went from all A's on her report card to F's.
        "I've put her on punishment, taken her clothes, stripped her down to one pair of clothes and made her eat certain things for one week straight and nothing works," said her father.
        The teen stood on the corner of Stockdale Highway and Stine Road holding the self-effacing sign for four hours. Many drivers couldn't help but stop and look.
        "I think it's a good idea," said one driver. "You know I have kids of my own and if they would have done the same thing, I probably would have them right out there." 
        Another passerby said, "At least he's not beating her or starving her. Maybe this is a good way."
        Clinical psychologist Dr. Corey Gonzales doesn't agree. "You're making a personal thing very public, nuumber one. It could do some damage to the child; their development, their self esteem. Particularlly at that age." 
        The father says his daughter is a good person going through a tough stage in her life, but he's at his wit's end.
        "It's partially to embarrass her because we are embarrassed every time we have to replace something. So you know, share the joy. You know, embarrass everybody."

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lucharocks - 7/23/2008 3:08 PM
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I'd like to share this message that was sent to me a few years ago: Editor's Note: The following letter has appeared on the internet anf was view by many readers. DIFFERENT DRUG PROBLEM: The other day, someone at a store inour town read that a Methamphetamine lab had been found in an old farmhouse in the adjoining county and he asked me a rhetorical question, "Why didn't we have a drug problem when you and I were growing up?" I replied, I had a drug problem when I was young; I was drug to church on Sunday morning. I was drug to church for weddings and funerals. I was drug to family reunions and community socials no matter the weather. I was drug by my ears when I was disrespectful to adults. I was also drug to the woodshed when I disobeyed my parents, told a lie, brought home a bad report card, did'nt speak with respect, spoke will of the teacher or the preacher, or if I didn't put forth my best effort in what was asked of me. I was drug to the kitchen sink to have my mouth washed out with soap if I uttered a profanity. I was drug out to pull weeds in mom's gartden and flowerbeds. I was drug to help poor souls who had no one to help them, mow the lawn or chop firewood and I never took a dime or I'd get taken to the woodshed if I did. Those drugs are still in my veins and they affect my behavior in everything I do,say, or think. They are stronger than cocain, crack, or heroin; and if today's children had this kind of drug problem, America would be a better place. God bless the parents who drugged us.

silntmajority - 7/23/2008 11:12 AM
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Good job Dad! Shame and humiliation should be a fitting punishment. At the very least, we all will know who not to leave alone with our own personal belongings.

st8money - 7/22/2008 9:07 PM
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I think mr. delouth is on to something. society is not holding children responsible for their action these days instead they rather blame the parents for their kids action well i think its time for the kids to start taking some responsiblity and if having your kid stand on a street corner holding a sign will get though to them then im all for it because there is way to many kids in the prison system today.again mr.delouth i commend you its about time somebody stepped up and had their kid take responsiblity for her action.

Shirley Cuen - 7/22/2008 8:44 PM
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This child is getting off to easy. Back in my days it was get a spanking or a good beating, then ask question later. Children now a days have it to easy. Hooray for this father who believes in discipline. We need more fathers like him.

bakomomof2 - 7/22/2008 4:04 PM
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Good Job! I think that this a great idea. If more parents were actively involved in teaching discipline, consequences and morals like this father, my tax dollars wouldn't be drained by the system raising youth in corrections whose parents have dismissed their early patterns for unaccaeptable behavior. One day hopefully she will realize that her parents love her so much that they went to this sort of link to teach her a valuable lesson. maybe she'll straighten up now.

normaruth49 - 7/22/2008 1:14 PM
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I too have a teenager at home, a second time around, and boy have times changed my oldest being 42, all of them boys also makes a different,16 yr. old is girl. I guess what I am trying to say is the laws have tied our hands so much and the kids now days know that, that we come to our witts end and are left not knowing what we can do and what we can't,and that is very fearfull for parents.I am not sure of what I would do in his shoes, we can not judge him untill we are there, but I do give him this and that us,he must love her very much to say to all, I just want to help her to end this down fall to where she may be headed or even worst.In my day I was spanked, not beaten and I did grow up to hurt others, these phy. doctors are really something else,give meds.and more meds, it does not always help some times makes thing so much worst,even at times killing themselves or others, this world has changed so much and alot not for the good, so I say to this father do what you feel is best for your child in any way to help and save her from much worst.

normaruth49 - 7/22/2008 1:13 PM
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I too have a teenager at hope, a second time around, and boy have times changed my oldest being 42, all of them boys also makes a different,16 yr. old is girl. I guess what I am trying to say is the laws have tied our hands so much and the kids now days know that, that we come to our witts end and are left not knowing what we can do and what we can't,and that is very fearfull for parents.I am not sure of what I would do in his shoes, we can not judge him untill we are there, but I do give him this and that us,he must love her very much to say to all, I just want to help her to end this down fall to where she may be headed or even worst.In my day I was spanked, not beaten and I did grow up to hurt others, these phy. doctors are really something else,give meds.and more meds, it does not always help some times makes thing so much worst,even at times killing themselves or others, this world has changed so much and alot not for the good, so I say to this father do what you feel is best for your child in any way to help and save her from much worst.

jmabbott888 - 7/21/2008 10:19 PM
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It isn't time for a "time-out" it's time for a knock out. This isn't anything a swat or 2 couldn't fix, but then in this day & age & in the Rubublik of Kalifornistan if you look at your kid wrong its child abuse. The "head shrinkers" & the "time out" group need to get a life & finally face the fact that the wooping their parents gave them when they messed up did some good. To the dad in this story. GREAT JOB!!!!!!!!!!!! taking the responsibility of disipline. Keep up the good work.

Diana - 7/21/2008 7:35 PM
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It's about time great job this dad has finally taken charge to discipline his child the way he see's fit. At least he's trying to keep his daughter from gang's, drug's, jail or getting pregnant that's more than I can say for the countless other parents that just let there kids run amuck and do as they please. It's time for the parents take back the control of discipining there out of control children. This father should be given an Award for taking the time to care about what happens to his daughter. Maybe this is what the children need is a little more public humliation after all this is our future and that's a scary thought. Besides I'd rather see a parent do this than to beat his child.

whatthe - 7/21/2008 6:25 PM
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you read what that dumb darthduh wrote your child could probably rape and kill someone and you will blame society for your kids actions. quit being so stupid and feeling sorry for the youth of today back in the days a good whooping would of brought discipline to that girl.
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