Bakersfield ministry aims at transforming gays

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Updated: 11/25/2009 7:35 am
Phillip Lee will tell you gay people can change who they are because he he has done just that.

Lee is pastor of His Way Out ministries http://www.hiswayout.com/, a non-profit, inter-denominational organization that proposes homosexuals are sexually broken and can be led out of the lifestyle through a mixture of counseling and scripture.

"I spent 17 years in what many refer to as the gay lifestyle," Lee said. "I found out, like so many others, that to call homosexuality gay is a contradiction."

Lee conducts one-on-one counseling and organizes support groups out of his downtown Bakersfield office. He says he works with about 100 teens struggling with identity issues both in person and through the Internet. He also serves as a guest speaker at church services.

The practice of reparative or conversion therapy is criticized by gay rights advocates who call it misguided and unethical.

"For years in schools, people were forced to not be left handed. We know now these are wonderfully diverse ways of being normal," said activist Whitney Weddell. "The 100 kids that come in with their parents, I wonder how many parents drag them in and are being forced to this therapy that is just a waste of time."

Scientifically, there's not enough evidence to measure the counseling's effectiveness, said CSUB counseling psychology professor Kathleen Ritter, who says sexual orientation is a complex topic.

"The longest time that any population was followed in any study is six months so we don't know if that initial 'Oh I changed' held."

Ritter helped review the American Psychological Association's guidelines http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/guidelines on sexual orientation and efforts to change it.

Through the guideline, the APA resolved homosexuality is not a mental disorder and mental health professionals should avoid telling clients they can change their sexual orientation through therapy or other treatments.

Ritter doesn't suggest conversion therapy for her patients in her private practice, but says it would be unethical to persuade someone from using of it.

"We don't want to look like we have the religious people on one end and psychologists on the other and that we're fighting each other. Because that's not true." Ritter said.

His Way Out ministry contends in its brochures that its position comes from the authority of Scripture rather than social sciences and medicine.

The ''sexually broken'' can be transformed through close reading of Scripture and openly discussing temptations, the ministry contends.

"Since it is acquired it can be unacquired." Lee said. "And like I said, a lot of people have bought into the born-that-way theory. There's no Scripture to support that theory."

Weddell discounts opinions that gay people can change, saying sexual orientation is driven in large part by biology.

"The difficulty is if you read the fine print, they are not saying they are going to cure you or you are going to stop being gay,'' Weddell said. ''They say they are going to help you suppress your normal innate feelings. And supressing who you inherently are is dangerous."

Ritter said her therapy often focuses on ways her patients can become more comfortable with their sexual orientation.

"I tell them the problem is in society," Ritter said. "I say the problem is not you at all. It's that society doesn't let you have enough space to be who you are."
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CannabisPride - 12/13/2009 2:06 PM
Jpat65... First of all... you should have probable known at least SOMETHING about twins and their personalities before you made such an idiotic statement. Because, twins don't get born with exactly the same brain or mentality or even the same preference for what food they like. So, why would it be surprising that one would be born gay and the other not? Seriously... before you make such statements, for your own good, pick up a book. That's funny how you state that every gay man you know has had father issues. The majority of the gay men I know have no issues with their fathers... unless their fathers have an issue with their homosexuality latter in life when they come out. But, I'm sure you're not a liar. (Hahahaha.) According to this study, you're wrong : http://wthrockmorton.com/2008/08/01/homosexuality-and-son-father-estrangement/ But, hey... What would Irving Bieber know? I mean, it's not like psychology was his life's work. Also, I find it pretty hilarious that you can't have a monogamous relationship, so you think that no gay man can. I know plenty of gay men and gay women that are in committed and monogamous relationships. But, you're also forgetting that monogamy and committment are personal preferences and not the natural and intended way of the human species. Human beings aren't supposed to stay with one person forever, in the first place. I certainly don't believe in monogamy... not even serial monogamy. And, I'm sure that straight people are so great at it. It's not like over 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce. And, it's not like one of the main causes for that is marital indiscretions. No, not at all. The fact of the matter is that straight men cheat an awful lot and straight women would cheat more if they weren't afraid of judgement. People like to f*ck. That's not "proof" of anything. I think if you cared to ask, you'd find that a lot of straight relationships end the same way.... But, I forgot... you know eveyrthing.

CannabisPride - 12/13/2009 1:56 PM
Primo... Yeah, coyote has a point. You do sound like someone trying VERY hard to convince themselves. Is it working? Brainwashing is a terrible thing because the person that it happens to never has a chance. And, are you stating that this practice (which has caused suicide, depression, and a wealth of other mental problems) is okay, but plastic surgery is not? That seems a little far fetched to me. Why not go further? Why get piercings or tattos... I mean, we weren't born that way. Or, hell... why wear clothes? We weren't born that way. You're ridiculous. And, you are the only one that is telling yourself that you can't change... That's why you need to repeat it so harshly over and over and over again. It must be really difficult living a lie. I'm very sorry for you.

CannabisPride - 12/13/2009 1:53 PM
DRUMZ... yeah, all that health information and psychological studies really don't make much sense at all. You're an idiot. Seriously, do you just stalk me on here? It's pretty pathetic that every time I leave a comment, you have to trail after me like a child. Is it because I made you feel so inferior and unintelligent? Or is it just because you don't have a life? Hrm... I wonder.

coyote62 - 12/12/2009 8:12 AM
primo Who are you trying to convince? Sounds like if you tell yourself these lines strong enough and long enough you might believe that pile of balonie. JPat65 I know several hetro men who are not monogomis either. Problem is their wives don't know it. Who do you think goes to all the female prostitutes? And as usual, the focus is on men(nothing against men, I love real men just not to have sex with) Lesbians have quite a good reputation for being faithful.

JPat65 - 12/11/2009 2:55 PM
I can appreciate Lee's comment that gay and homosexuality is a contradiction, especially being out for over twenty-two years. I also don't believe that it's a born trait, I've known two different sets of identical twins that one was gay and the other straight. I really think it's a developmental issue that happens in the early childhood period. Every gay man that I know, including myself have all had major relationship problems with their fathers. I think one of the main reasons we see most gay relationships end up being open and non-monogamous is that we're (men) not really wired to be with other guys in that type of emotional relationship. Yes, we can be committed, but rarely on a monogamous level. Most of my friends have these committed relationships that are like a partnership with your best friend, but it ends up being non-sexual and open to having sex with other people. It's a pretty empty life!

Primo - 12/11/2009 2:36 PM
I don't understand how the LGBT community condones changing someone's biology because they don't feel like they are the sex they were born into and want to change their sex, but they don't think it's okay for someone who does not want to have homosexual attractions to enlist reparative therapy to change their thinking and behavior. I'm speaking from personal experience as someone who has struggled since a young age with same sex attraction that I DO NOT WANT. I will not be reduced to just DNA and accept that I cannot change. I CAN CHANGE. HUMANS CAN CHANGE. WE ARE NOT JUST PHYSICAL ENTITIES WHO ARE SLAVES TO GENETIC MAKEUP. In fact the science no longer supports this. There are not genes for every little characteristic of the human. They found MANY less genes than they expected to find. Why is that? Because we are not just physical beings. We too are spiritual, mental and emotional. ALL of those things work together to make us who we are. And we do NOT have to stay where we don't want to be. I believe it is in our power to change our behaviors, attractions, tastes, etc. SO LGBT COMMUNITY STOP TELLING ME THAT I CANNOT CHANGE!!!!

DRUMZ - 12/11/2009 1:28 PM
wow that drug addicts comments sound like they are coming from a stoned 3rd grader.

bmca1973 - 12/2/2009 4:55 PM
momof3, Who is "us"? Christians? People with high moral value? You said, "Many of you are "bashing" us and expect us to teach our children what you believe." Just asking.

CannabisPride - 12/1/2009 4:35 PM
momof3... So, we should ignore the scientific evidence that this practice is dangerous? Because the Bible tells you so? That seems a bit wrong. And, not really the teachings of Christ. Read your Bible a little more carefully, next time. Jesus spread LOVE, PEACE, and UNDERSTANDING. What part of forcing people to be something other than what they were born to be is reflective of Christ's teachings? See... that's my problems with Christians. You want respect and understanding but you don't want to show any yourself. Let me ask you something... Does God make mistakes? If you answer no, than you are admitting that homosexuality was not a mistake. (If you'd remember the passage about "the least of these", you'd remember that spitting on them is the same as spitting on God.) If you answer yes, than you don't even believe the Bible that you're promoting. If you'd care to look at the evidence of these sort of "therapies", you'd see that they cause more harm than anything else. Which makes it a dangerous practice. You can ignore evidence all you want and try to "fix" what doesn't fit into your religion. But, if there is a hell, there is a special place in it for people like this. And, by promoting this practice, you are not only condemning a lot of people to a life of emotional and mental unstability, you are condemning your very religion and its teachings. Don't ask the rest of us to live by your standards when you don't want to do the same yourself.

coyote62 - 11/30/2009 7:32 PM
OOPS I meant to say "I don't know of any group that tries to turn hetros into Gays" my bad..
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